• Limiting Beliefs
    • I am only worthy if I have a partner that loves me
    • Lack of boundaries is an expression of love
    • If I don’t feel intense love all the time towards my partner, she will leave me
    • If she fails, I failed, I didn’t love her enough, she feels unworthy or untrusted
    • if she succeeds, she may not need me anymore, I may be abandoned
    • Everyone sees the world the same way I do
  • I need to work on
    • Emotional Regulation
    • Reality distortion
    • Letting small problems go
    • Allowing resentment to build within me
    • Take time getting to know someone
    • Setting healthy and specific boundaries
    • Willing to walk away if my needs aren’t met
  • Be Cautious or look for
    • Relationship with family
    • Has differentiated from family
    • Ability to make decisions
    • Outside hobbies and interests
    • Shares interests, beliefs and thoughts
    • Is open and transparent
    • how and why previous relationships ended
  • Absolute Boundary Violations
    • Silent Treatment of any kind
    • Threats to leave or end the relationship
    • Infidelity (emotional, psychical or social)